You know how people buy drinks for girls in bars? Why can’t people do that in book stores? Like if I’m looking at a novel in Barnes and Noble and some person walks up to me and strikes up a conversation and offers to buy the book for me there is a lot better chance of that working out in their favor
I just don’t understand how I can be completely fine one moment and an emotional disaster the next. I am so much happier now, but so much sadder, and it doesn’t make any sense. I’m just… lost. Confused. Hurt. Happy. Hopefully. Angry. Lonely. As someone I once (and still do) cared about immensely put it, I’m “messed up”. I have a serious talent for hurting people and I’m a bad person, but I don’t want to be. I want to deserve to be happy. I am so sick of being hated by everyone, even myself. I can even by upset by everyone hating me because I completely understand why they do; I hate me too. I’m horrible. But that doesn’t make it any less lonely. Yet some moments are blissful and certain people make me happy. As perks of being a wallflower so accurately ponders, how can I be so happy yet so miserable at once? I just want to deserve a good life and know what I want. I want to stop dragging people down with me. I want to belong somewhere and I just want some one to freaking care if I’m here or not. I want a friend.
“I have a real issue with anyone trying to protect children from their own imaginations. If we cannot acknowledge that a lot of us have a bit of darkness within ourselves, some more than others perhaps, and bring it into the light and examine it and talk about this part of the human condition, then I think we will be living in quite a dangerous climate. I think that’s much more damaging for children.”—J.K. Rowling on parents that forbid their children from reading Harry Potter (or any fantasy novel that they vaguely disagree with)
“These days, before we talk about misogyny, women are increasingly being asked to modify our language so we don’t hurt men’s feelings. Don’t say, “Men oppress women” – that’s sexism, as bad as any sexism women ever have to handle, possibly worse. Instead, say, “Some men oppress women.” Whatever you do, don’t generalise. That’s something men do. Not all men – just some men.
This type of semantic squabbling is a very effective way of getting women to shut up. After all, most of us grew up learning that being a good girl was all about putting other people’s feelings ahead of our own. We aren’t supposed to say what we think if there’s a chance it might upset somebody else or, worse, make them angry. So we stifle our speech with apologies, caveats and soothing sounds. We reassure our friends and loved ones that “you’re not one of those men who hate women”.
What we don’t say is: of course not all men hate women. But culture hates women, so men who grow up in a sexist culture have a tendency to do and say sexist things, often without meaning to. We aren’t judging you for who you are but that doesn’t mean we’re not asking you to change your behaviour. What you feel about women in your heart is of less immediate importance than how you treat them on a daily basis.
“I’m a paradox. I want to be happy, but I think of things that make me sad. I’m lazy, yet I’m ambitious. I don’t like myself, but I also love who I am. I say I don’t care, but I really do. I crave attention, but reject it when it comes my way. I’m a conflicted contradiction. If I can’t figure myself out, there’s no way anyone else has.”—(via ilikeyoursundaypersonalitybetter)
oh my god you're clearly one of those girls who just hate guys haha, feminism has no place in this day and age.
Feminism isn’t the practice of hatred against men, that’s misandry. Feminism is the practice of equality between all people. I certainly do not hate men as my two best friends are guys and i have like one girl friend. It’s people like you who make it clear that Feminism does still have a place in this day and age.
“I feel unspeakably lonely. And I feel - drained. It is a blank state of mind and soul I cannot describe to you as I think it would not make any difference. Also it is a very private feeling I have - that of melting into a perpetual nervous breakdown. I am often questioning myself what I further want to do, who I further wish to be; which parts of me, exactly, are still functioning properly. No answers, darling. At all.”—Anne Sexton, A Self-Portrait In Letters (via rlyrlyugly)
ohmyGOD You're 18 now! LEGAL. AHH! You will be driving and drinking and partying and being all adult like and wow. Such adult. Much old. I hope you have a lovely day and get all the presents you wanted! Beautiful person <3
“In nineteen minutes, you can mow the front lawn; color your hair; watch a third of a hockey game. In nineteen minutes, you can bake scones or get a tooth filled by a dentist; you can fold laundry for a family of five. In nineteen minutes, you can stop the world; or you can just jump off it.”—Jodi Picoult, Nineteen Minutes (via leslieseuffert)